Fat and…happy?

Posted in Diet,Life by Ashley Franklin on June 10, 2010
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So I was watching a rerun of  “My Wife and Kids,” and Jay (Tisha Campbell-Martin’s character) had noticeably gained a little weight. Her husband, Michael (Damon Wayans’ character), found her unsexy, had a quick therapy session, and took some Viagra so he could get up to the task–so to speak. There aren’t any overweight characters on the show. Even when a character becomes pregnant, she is all belly. The show is a comedy. I find it funny. This time, however, it made me think.

Jay told Michael that he should accept her the way she is. He eventually agreed. Cute, right? Well, it didn’t last long. Jay has a dream that Michael and their kids are all morbidly obese. They’re breathing heavy, fighting over food and their youngest child is so large she simply rolls around. Oh, and of course their clothes don’t fit. Oddly enough, Jay is the only one that is normally plump.

Of course Jay woke up and declared that she would start dieting immediately. She emptied out several snack stashes and the show ended shortly after. Jay’s weight affected her marriage. Michael was immediately  less attracted to her.

Should I take this as a TV lesson? I’m overweight. I don’t have a huge stomach or anything, but I am bottom heavy. I’m sure you can figure out what that means without my having to go into detail. I’m married. I haven’t been married for years on end, but I’m married just the same. My husband has never complained about my weight. He frowns when I complain about it. He’s very supportive of me overall.

My questions: As a married woman, or as a woman in a relationship, how important is your weight? Should you tailor your weight to suit your relationship? As a single woman, is weight more or less of an issue?


The Fat Smash Diet: Dead to me

Posted in Diet,Life changes by Ashley Franklin on June 9, 2010

The Fat Smash Diet did not fail me. For symmetry’s sake, I should say I failed it. Well, don’t hold your breath for that. I got to the middle of phase 2. Did I cheat? No. Did I give up? No. I quit. Sticking to the diet wasn’t all that hard. I quit for two reasons: 1-I wasn’t exercising as much as I should have been and 2-I was growing increasingly irritable.

Perhaps someone with a more distinguished pallet would have done quite well. I don’t eat that many vegetables. I eat broccoli, can tolerate spinach, and green beans aren’t bad. Needless to say, nearly three weeks of those vegetables didn’t take me very far. I did much better with eating fruit. My husband even made a special trip to the market to make sure I had what I needed. I ate strawberries, grapes, kiwis, pineapples, oranges, apples, bananas, watermelon, and mangoes.

Well, here’s what happened: I went to eat my broccoli one day and literally gagged. I was all “broccolied” out. It pretty much went the same for the rest of the vegetables. The fruit was continuously delicious. It just went bad so quickly.

There is one thing I found questionable. I bought The Fat Smash Diet audiobook. It includes recipes and possible eating and exercising schedules that you  can access on your computer. The recipes include several things that are supposed to be off-limit according to the phase you are on. So the question became: To follow the recipes or follow the guide? I’m honestly still not sure.

I may give The Fat Smash Diet another try in the future, when I know I will be more committed to the exercise. Much to my chagrin, many of the recipes call for beans. I despise beans. I’m not even fond of jellybeans. I have gained a new appreciation of brown rice. I also use less butter and sugar when I’m cooking. Those are life changes. The diet was a temporary change that was to encourage life changes. I may not have lost drastic amounts of weight, but I’ll take a life change over that any day. Besides, enough life changes just may add up to weight loss anyway.

The Fat Smash Diet: Day 5

Posted in Diet by Ashley Franklin on May 22, 2010

I started this diet on Tuesday. By Thursday night, I was irritable. Today is Saturday. Here are 10 realizations that I’ve come to since starting:

1. I don’t eat, know, or like enough fruits and vegetables for this.

2. I use too much butter when I cook, and now I miss it.

3. I’ve had an uncontrollable urge to drink alcohol since day 2, thinking that it would settle my nerves.

4. I can’t drink alcohol because I’m only supposed to drink water–nerves still frazzled.

5. I struggle to cook without tasting everything.

6. It’s hard to cook for someone who is not on a diet when you are.

7. I would not survive as a vegetarian.

8. Brown rice somehow manages to be devastatingly dry and mysteriously moist at the same time.

9. Eating 5 times a day is hard when you don’t want to eat anything you have.

10. I’m still not sure if corn is a vegetable or if I should be eating it, but there’s corn in one of the recipes. To me, that’s good enough for a pass.

The Fat Smash Diet: Day 1 Review

Posted in Diet by Ashley Franklin on May 19, 2010
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I am not hungry. No, that’s not a lame attempt at convincing myself. I’m actually not hungry. Eating 4 to 5 times a day, even if you’re not hungry, keeps you full even if the meals and snacks are small. Did I do my 30 minutes of cardio yesterday? No. I”m supposed to do 30 minutes of cardio for like 5 days out of the week. My biggest challenge yesterday was wondering how to keep my bananas from ripening too fast. By the time I googled it, it was too late. My partially green bananas and my super green bananas were all rapidly approaching bright yellow. I couldn’t run out and buy those special produce bags, so I cut up the super yellow bananas and shoved em in the freezer.

Now that I think about it, dinner was a challenge. For myself, I’d fixed a concoction of corn, brown rice, cayenne pepper, and onions. I tossed it in the oven while my husband’s dinner was finishing up. What was he having? Meatloaf, cheesy rice, and green beans. I love meatloaf, and this one was extra pretty for some reason (that reason probably being that I couldn’t have any). In between bites of meatloaf, my husband leaned over and asked to try what I was eating. Two chews and a swallow later, “Aww baby. You’re not gonna enjoy that!”  I could almost see the concern in his voice, though he quickly returned to his meal.

It wasn’t bad really. Here’s what I ended up eating:


1:20P.M.~1 strawberry

2:45P.M.~Bowl of mixed up corn, onion, green pepper w/ cayenne pepper for taste

5:20P.M.~ Apple

6:00P.M.~ 1Cup Oatmeal

9:30P.M.~Bowl of mixed up corn, onion, green pepper & brown rice w/ cayenne pepper for taste

Keep in mind that I wasn’t restricted to eating what I did. I picked things that I would actually eat. Having as many fruits and vegetables as I want is a pretty sweet deal. It keeps me from starving to death like I thought I would. The recipes on the audiobook seemed tasty if I ate most of the vegetables that were the ingredients.

The Fat Smash Diet: Day 1

Posted in Diet,Life changes,Random Experiences by Ashley Franklin on May 18, 2010
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Last week I bought the audiobook of Dr. Ian K. Smith’s The Fat Smash Diet. Yes, it was a while ago when I posted about wanting to lose weight. Did I do anything about it then? No, I’m not going to lie to you. What I can say is that the thought of doing it never left me. I knew I wasn’t going to stick to whatever plan I concocted, so I just didn’t do anything.

So what was my new motivation? I love myself. I don’t have a problem with self-esteem, and my husband is my greatest supporter of all things me. However, this back fat has got to go! You can suck in your stomach, but you cannot suck in back fat. It vexes me to no end.

So, the first phase of  The Fat Smash Diet is a fruit and veggie detox. I am NOT a fan of veggies. Strangely enough, I do love broccoli. I’m supposed to eat like 4 to 5 small meals a day. I’m struggling to comprehend the idea of to differentiate a meal of fruits and veggies from a snack.

Has anyone else done this diet (or shall I say lifestyle change)? I’m about to have my first meal–strawberries. 3 would have been a snack. 5 makes it a meal. Yes, I made that up, but I’m working with my own logic.

1st meal